Constructive feedback check

Specific, behavioral, actionable, respectful — never a personal attack. Destructive feedback is not “being direct.” It is being careless.

Person

When I will say it

Draft — test it against the bar

The bar

Specific — a moment, not a personality. About behavior or outcome, not character. Actionable — they would know what to try tomorrow. Balanced enough that a strength is not invisible. Respectful. I could read this aloud in front of them. Not a sandwich. Not waiting for review season.

Constructive feedback check

Draft — test it against the bar

The bar

After they respond